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How to use a Strap-On

 

How to use a strap-on

A strap-on allows you to penetrate, and be penetrated by a dildo while keeping your hands free. Women can wear one to stimulate the thrust of a penis, while men can use a hollow dildo if they suffer from erectile dysfunction or simply want to experience a bigger, harder cock.

Step-By-Step Guide to Using a Strap-On

Here’s a handy step-by-step guide on what to do once your latest purchase arrives.

  1. Get acquainted - Take your strap-on out of the box and spend a bit of time becoming familiar with it. Depending on the style of harness you have chosen, you will want to put it on and adjust the straps before using it for the first time. If you’re sharing it with a a partner, it’s a good idea to see how it fits on them and what sort of adjustments will need to be made when you want to switch over. Figure out how the dildo attaches – is it via an O-ring or have you bought a Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock system? Figuring out these things before taking it for a test run will result in more efficiency down the track. If your dildo is also a vibrator, then you’ll need to pop some batteries in or make sure it’s fully charged.
  2. Clean it - You should always clean your dildo before using it for the first time. You’ll also need to clean it after each use, particularly if you’ve been using it for anal play. Check the instructions and follow the manufacturer’s advice carefully. Silicone toys can be washed in warm soapy water, sterilised in the top rack of the dishawasher or cleaned in a 10% bleach solution. Jelly rubber and TPR cannot be sterilised or disinfected but you can wash with toy cleaner or warm soapy water. A dildo is designed for use in your most sensitive areas, so it’s not worth risking an infection by skipping this step. If you plan on sharing the dildo with your partner then it is incredibly important that you practice good hygiene.
  3. Lube up - When using a strap-on you’ll want plenty of lube handy in the beginning. It’s important to remember that you can’t use a silicone-based lubricant with a silicone toy because it will cause the surface to degrade. Stick to a water-based lube if you’re unsure what the dildo is made from. A specific anal lube is handy if you’re planning on indulging in some anal play. It’s thicker than regular lube and has been designed specifically for this purpose. If you’re using a hollow dildo then it’s a good idea to lube yourself up before slipping it on, and you should also lube the actual dildo itself.
  4. Take it slowly - Women aren’t used to thrusting from the hips the way a man does, so it can take some getting used to. There is no need to rush into it. When first starting out, the receiver should remain still, allowing the wearer to do all the moving. Take your time and get comfortable with the way the harness feels, adjusting it so there’s no discomfort or chafing from the straps.
  5. Experiment and play - It’s important to keep the lines of communication open, and find what feels best for you. If you’re a woman wearing the harness, you might find that your clitoris gets some light pressure from the holder, which can be enjoyable. However, you might miss the feel of targeted clitoral stimulation and therefore ask your partner to help out. Guys, you could ask your partner if she’s into double entry and experiment with penetrating her in both the anus and the vagina at the same time using the dildo and your penis. If you suffer from erectile dysfunction or have a problem maintaining an erection long enough for your partner to orgasm, you could try alternating between the dildo and your penis, switching back and forth. Position yourself and the dildo at different angles to help find the sweet spots. The most important thing is that you have fun with it, speak up and communicate what you want.
  6. Clean up - Yes, we know we mentioned this already but it’s so important. You need to clean your dildo before AND after each use, regardless of what it’s made from. Read the manufacturer’s instructions and don’t forget to clean inside the seams or gaps. If your harness is made from fabric then it can generally be cleaned with warm soapy water. Nylon can be thrown in the washing machine, but you need to remove anything that’s not made of nylon before doing so. Leather harnesses take a little more effort, but if cared for correctly they can last a lifetime.

Other Ways to Enjoy Your Strap-On

There are lots of ways to get enjoyment from your strap-on. Use the dildo alone, or with the harness and you’ll get a lifetime of satisfaction.

  • Female to female - This is where a woman wears the harness and penetrates her female partner, either anally, vaginally or orally.
  • Male to male - Guy can purchase a hollow dildo and use it with their male partner, either anally or orally. This is a great way to help with erectile dysfunction, prolonging sex, experimenting with different sizes and shapes or simply adding a bit of fun to the bedroom.
  • Oral sex - Some people get turned on watching their partner perform oral sex on a dildo. If you purchase a strap-on that attaches to your arm, thigh, leg or hand then both of you can engage in the act.
  • Anal sex - Otherwise known as “pegging”, this is where a woman can perform anal sex on her male partner. It allows the man to experience a prostate massage, and can be extremely intense as the prostate has about as many sensitive nerve endings as a clitoris.
  • Masturbating - Women might like to use the dildo to masturbate with, and men can use it to hit the P-spot and potentially achieve a really intense orgasm. The harness comes in handy because you can attach it to a pillow, chair or piece of furniture so that it stays secure and you can keep your hands free for balance, or touching yourself.

Using a strapon might not seem obvious at first but we hope our howto guide has helped you!

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