How to use a masturbator
A masturbator .. you might think that using one is pretty self-explanatory. But once you’ve actually got the toy in your hand there are suddenly all sorts of unanswered questions floating around. Do I need to clean it before each use, or just afterwards? Do I use it to penetrate my vagina or simply tease my clit? Can I use rechargeable batteries or just regular ones? Here’s a quick guide to helping you figure out your new device and get the most out of it.
Step-By-Step Guide to Using a Masturbator
Let’s get down to the nitty-gritty. Here’s a step-by-step guide on what to do once your new best friend arrives in the post.
- Inspect your new masturbator - Open the box, unwrap the plastic, remove your product from its pouch and take a good, hard look at your latest purchase. Get to know your new masturbator. See where the buttons are, find out where the batteries go (if it’s battery operated) or plug it into the charger if that’s what the instructions say. Is it waterproof? Does it come with toy cleaner or will you be just using warm water and soap? Can you reach the buttons with one hand or will you need two hands to operate the device and scroll through the vibrating options? You should also check to make sure there are no exposed wires, faulty bits or dodgy looking flaws before you start using your masturbator. Check your warranty and return if it doesn’t look completely perfect.
- Fire it up! - It’s a good idea to switch your masturbator on before your first session (whether it’s solo or with a partner) so that you get an idea of what it’s capable of doing. Scroll through the vibration cycles, get familiar with them and also get a feel for how to use the buttons/dials/remote. All masturbators are different, and each will have a different way to switch it on and off. Some will even have a handy locking device if you plan to take it out and about.
- Clean it - Always clean your masturbator before using it. This means giving it a thorough clean when you’ve taken it out of the packaging, but also cleaning it before each subsequent use. It will only take five minutes, especially if you have a silicone or glass vibrator because they can simply be washed under hot soapy water. These devices are made to be used on your most sensitive areas, and there’s no point risking an infection simply because you were in too much of a hurry! You also need to thoroughly clean your masturbator after each session. Silicone and glass are handy because they can be thrown into the top rack of your dishwasher. Others need a bit more attention, especially if they are made from a porous material like TPE, TPR or jelly rubber.
- Set aside some private time - Even if you plan on using your new toy with a partner, it’s a good idea to take a bit of time to discover it on your own. Wait until you have the house to yourself, or ensure nobody is going to burst in while you’re experimenting or it might put you off for life! You need to be able to relax in private and let go of any tension so that you can get used to the new sensations.
- Lube up - When using it for the first time, you’ll probably want to incorporate some lube. Just remember that you can’t use a silicone-based lubricant with a silicone toy as the chemicals will break down and damage your toy. If you’re not sure, stick to a water-based lube to be safe. If you’re planning on indulging in some anal play, then you should get a specific anal lube, which is slightly thicker than regular lube. After a few uses you might find you don’t need it, but it’s always a good idea to have some on hand just in case.
- Take it slow - There’s no need to rush straight into things. Whether you’re alone or with a partner we recommend warming up with a little foreplay first. Find a comfortable position, perhaps on your back or stomach, and switch your vibrator on. Drape it slowly over your body, feeling the vibrations as they tickle and tease your waist, stomach, nipples and inner thighs. Start getting closer and closer to your vagina, and when you’re feeling suitably aroused, it’s time to put your new toy to good use.
- Take it for a spin - Relax and experiment, finding what feels best for you. Perhaps you just want to stimulate the clitoris, or you might prefer to be penetrated. It’s all up to you. Don’t forget to test out the different vibrating levels and put the vibrator through its paces. Try different angles to help find your sweet spot, or test it out using different amounts of pressure. Perhaps you like it to be pressed hard against your skin, or you might prefer a light, tickling touch. Some people enjoy a combination of vibrator with fingers, penis or other toys like nipple clamps etc. Don’t be afraid to speak up, communicate your desires with a partner or try new things.
- Clean up - Yes, that’s right. You need to clean your toy before AND after each session - even if it’s made from something non-porous like glass or silicone. Follow the manufacturer’s instructions and make sure you clean inside any seams or gaps. If it has batteries, take these out first. You should allow your vibrator to air-dry and then place it carefully inside a storage pouch or drawer for next time. If it’s a silicone toy, you need to store safely without letting it rub up against other silicone products or this could damage the exterior of both toys.
Other Ways to Enjoy Your masturbator
Masturbators are extremely versatile, and can be used in myriad ways – not all of them sexual!
- Anal play - If you’re interested in engaging in some anal play, you need to make sure your vibrator has a flared base, otherwise there’s a chance it could slip past your sphincter muscles and become stuck. If you plan to use your vibrator both vaginally and anally, you must clean it before taking it from one part of the body to the other. Sometimes it’s easier to use a condom and change this rather than having to wash with warm soapy water halfway through a session.
- Massagers - Most masturbators and vibrators can be used as excellent massage tools, particularly the larger wands. Rub them over your shoulders, neck, between the shoulder blades and even along tight hamstrings at the end of a long day or after engaging in sport.
- For the guys - A vibrator doesn’t just have to be for the girls. You could use it to arouse your partner, teasing his nipples and rim of the anus. The perineum (also known as the P-spot) runs between the anus and the scrotum and is highly erotic for both women and men. Massaging this spot can have exciting results, and is a great way to introduce the vibrator into your relationship.
By far the most important thing to do with your new masturbator is to experiment, and find the right position and stroking pattern that best suits you, and what makes you orgasm the best.